According to Jeffry A. Simpson, the amount of love and support you get from your the mother can predict your future endeavors in relationships with other people in adulthood. But how do first 12 to 18 month’s of your life can predict your romantic relationships when you’re 25?
In University of Minnesota, researches investigated whether mother infant relationship can later influence love partnerships by assessing 75 subjects from birth into their early 30’s.To help researchers rate how tightly the mother and the infant were bonded, children were put into stressful situations with their mothers and evaluated by their behavior. As adults, subjects regularly returned for evaluation of their personal lives such as relationships with friends, family and romantic partners.
Although there was evidence confirming this psychological theory, there is still some ambiguity in this issue. The researchers found that even though the child may not have experienced great connections with his or her mother, having a loving and trustworthy romantic partner will protect one from showing dysfunctional behavior.
Also, there can be other factors influencing child’s ability to communicate in the future. For example, an infant’s personality, genetics, neighborhood environment could be the factors influencing him or her in the future. This means there is no clear cut to predicting one’s future romantic relationships.
On the other hand it is still very important that a mother does understand that infant neglect can create problems in child’s personality. By nurturing, showing attention, cuddling and talking to the baby, a mother helps the child develop trust, sense of security and feelings of love.
For more information on why it is important to establish warm and trusting contact with your own child, watch this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6fY6RchNk4&feature=BFa&list=PL23E3015A4B0AAAB6&lf=results_video
Resources:
Association for Psychological Science (2011, December 14). Ability to love takes root in earliest infancy. ScienceDaily. Retrieved January 30, 2012, from http://www.sciencedaily.com /releases/2011/12/111214125904.htm
Youtube Video: Why is bonding with baby important? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6fY6RchNk4&feature=BFa&list=PL23E3015A4B0AAAB6&lf=results_video