I spend very little time with children, save for holidays, birthdays and random visits to my sister’s place where I get to ‘hang’ with my niece & nephew who are both 16. Very little time, that is, if you don’t count the almost daily exchanges of IMs on messenger and updates on facebook they send, so I don’t feel particularly qualified to comment on how to deal with internet safety for kids. I can, therefore, only speak of my own experiences, for the moment, as a student and a teacher who is/has undertaken an educational adventure into the wild, wild world (www….) of cyberspace (though admittedly I’m not entirely certain whether this www was thrust upon me or whether I thrust myself into it), a space where I practice privacy in my presence and am ceaselessly cautious about what I see and who I trust, using many of the same rules drilled into me by my parents as a child, including: don’t take candy from strangers (in fact, don’t talk to strangers), if its too good to be true, it probably is, and, yes, even, don’t run with scissors. I believe that I am more cautious now then I was in my late teens and early twenties, but perhaps that comes from knowledge gained through life and learning experiences and not because I am an old ‘fuddy duddy’ (as my 20 year old niece exclaimed the other day using, ‘an expression you might understand’) but that remains to be seen.
After doing a quick Google search on ‘teaching internet safety to children’ I came across the article Kids the Internet and the End of Privacy: The Greatest Generation Gap Since Rock ‘n Roll. I’ll hit the highlights here, the comments that struck a chord – and in some cases, dischord – with me. For example, while I have heard myself speak similarly to these comments about kids and online presence, which would suggest that I tend to agree with them:
Kids today. They have no sense of shame. They have no sense of privacy. They are show-offs, fame whores, pornographic little loons who post their diaries, their phone numbers, their stupid poetry—for God’s sake, their dirty photos!—online. They have virtual friends instead of real ones. They talk in illiterate instant messages. They are interested only in attention—and yet they have zero attention span, flitting like hummingbirds from one virtual stage to another. (Nussbaum, 2007. P2)
“When it is more important to be seen than to be talented, it is hardly surprising that the less gifted among us are willing to fart our way into the spotlight,” sneers Lakshmi Chaudhry in the current issue of The Nation. “Without any meaningful standard by which to measure our worth, we turn to the public eye for affirmation.” (Ibid)
the one that followed,
Clay Shirky, a 42-year-old professor of new media at NYU’s Interactive Telecommunications Program, who has studied these phenomena since 1993, has a theory about that response. “Whenever young people are allowed to indulge in something old people are not allowed to, it makes us bitter. What did we have? The mall and the parking lot of the 7-Eleven? It sucked to grow up when we did! And we’re mad about it now.” People are always eager to believe that their behavior is a matter of morality, not chronology, Shirky argues. “You didn’t behave like that because nobody gave you the option.”
well, that one struck a nerve. And, it got worse.
More young people are putting more personal information out in public than any older person ever would—and yet they seem mysteriously healthy and normal, save for an entirely different definition of privacy… Younger people, one could point out, are the only ones for whom it seems to have sunk in that the idea of a truly private life is already an illusion…. So it may be time to consider the possibility that young people who behave as if privacy doesn’t exist are actually the sane people, not the insane ones. (Ibid)
So, maybe I am a fuddy duddy.
The author continues, discussing some of the (possibly neurological) changes the internet has affected on its citizens (as opposed to an immigrant like myself) as follows:
CHANGE 1: THEY THINK OF THEMSELVES AS HAVING AN AUDIENCE
CHANGE 2: THEY HAVE ARCHIVED THEIR ADOLESCENCE
CHANGE 3: THEIR SKIN IS THICKER THAN YOURS
The conclusion? Well, the privacy/safety issue was pretty much sidestepped. ‘Think of the potential’: as with all new technologies, there are going to be gains and losses. My conclusion? I find scissors very useful but I am quite happy just walking with them. As for parents and educators of the net generation, I am glad to see that there is good help out there, or should I say, when it comes to ‘net’ safety and to help ‘bridge the gap’.
Nussbaum, E. (2007) “Say Everything – Kids the Internet and the End of Privacy: The Greatest Generation Gap Since
Rock ‘n Roll.” New York 12 Feb. 2007
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