We’re constantly told we live in a time of unprecedented change. The term is used everywhere from manufacturing to climate change painting an overall picture of a world developing faster than it ever has done before. One area definitely not exempt from this change is human social behaviour, and here the pace of development is just as fast as anywhere else. What was once socially acceptable and commonplace may be completely improper and outlawed just a decade later. I would argue that these changes are pretty unanimously for the better, driving us into a new era where misogyny, racism and homophobia are rightfully called out and providing those historically marginalized opportunity to live happier and healthier lives. However, I am also barely twenty and so I’ve grown up being educated into what is largely the status quo today. In another twenty, thirty years will I be lurking on the next equivalent of Twitter and Facebook, commenting that the world has gone crazy and that we need to go back to the ‘good old days’ when people lived by the rules I’m most comfortable with?
This generational struggle to adapt to change is a central theme of Disgrace by J.M. Coetzee, the novel we are currently analyzing in ASTU. Disgrace is set in post-apartheid South Africa and is centred around David Laurie, a white, 52 year old, South African professor as he navigates a country that has changed, at least on the surface, profoundly over a short space of time. The first half of the novel is highly representative of this struggle that those in older generations can have in coming to terms with a new social environment. David begins in a rut in many aspects of his life. He’s frustrated about what he’s being forced to teach at the university and his sex life, although logically taken care of through a prostitute, lacks any passion. This changes when he meets Melanie, a student in one of his classes, and engages in a highly inappropriate sexual relationship which includes non-consensual sex. David feels bad after the event but after being reported to the university and facing disciplinary hearings he refuses to engage in any self reflection, rather just repeating that he accepts the accusations laid against him. It isn’t until his own daughter faces similar circumstances in the second half of the novel that David is forced to undergo some reflection of his moral compass.
However, David’s response to being disciplined for his actions with Melanie is highly reflective of the way many white South Africans responded to the end of the Apartheid. They acknowledge that the system was racist and therefore bad, but do it often through sense of necessity rather than a deeper reflection of why their actions were morally wrong. The situation in South Africa is made harder by the fact that the country is trying to undergo a processes of reconciliation (emphasis on the re) without a base model to work from. The term reconciliation makes it seem like there was a pre-existing positive set of relations between black and white South Africans that could be returned to and so masks that in fact the two groups needed to find a way to coexist peacefully for the first time in the country’s history whilst also acknowledging the trauma that non-white South Africans faced during system of apartheid and previously under British rule. An unprecedented change. So, whilst in certain contexts of reconciliation, after civil wars for instance, the older generation can be incredibly advantageous sources of knowledge to how they have previously lived harmoniously, in this context the older, white generation of South Africans find themselves post-apartheid in a context they have never previously known. Changing your ways after 50+ plus years of reinforcement is not at all an easy feat even if, like David, you have a degree of awareness that certain actions you have done are morally wrong.
There is no easy answer to how to respond when older generation’s struggle to or cannot respond to modern progressions in social attitudes. Certainly, we cannot excuse the actions of people like David Laurie on the basis that they couldn’t have known better having grown up in a different era. However, novels such as Disgrace remind us that processes of reconciliation are never going to be as easy as just changing the law and surface level social attitudes without addressing the underlying roots of intolerance that was embedded into past generations and cannot just be shaken off superficially and without real personal reflection. For me it also emphasises the need for younger generations to not grow complacent as we get older. What is the case now is never going to be the best things can ever possibly be and we should always be open to positive societal changes and meaningful self reflection.