{"id":119,"date":"2010-12-03T19:15:18","date_gmt":"2010-12-04T03:15:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/?p=119"},"modified":"2014-09-12T11:31:12","modified_gmt":"2014-09-12T19:31:12","slug":"emotional-skills","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/2010\/12\/03\/emotional-skills\/","title":{"rendered":"Emotional Skills"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Emotional development<\/strong> is a broad term that describes how a child develops, displays, regulates and understands feelings and emotions. The development of a child\u2019s <a title=\"This includes what a child knows about itself. It is about knowing what one can and cannot do, in different aspects of life.\">self-concept<\/a> and <a title=\"This is related to self-concept. It is the value that we put on what we can and cannot do and is heavily influenced by one\u2019s culture and environment.\">self-esteem<\/a> (see full <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/files\/2012\/02\/ECI_Glossary.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">Glossary<\/a>) are part of emotional development.<\/p>\n<p><em>Emotional development includes the development of emotional regulation, learning how to soothe and calm oneself.<\/em> This process starts early, with parents or caregivers providing young children with the comfort they need when distressed; for example, crying, hurt, scared and needing comfort.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>At first, children need their parents to calm down. Later, they do it mostly on their own. Most parents know what to do, for example rocking their baby back and forth, and do not need to be taught how to soothe their children. It \u00a0is something that comes naturally.<\/li>\n<li>Some children may take more time to soothe than others. Their parents may find it harder to read their children\u2019s emotions. \u00a0These children tend to be a bit more irritable than others, but this does not mean that these children cannot be soothed. It\u2019s important for parents to know that this may be their child\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/category\/1-3-social-and-emotional-development-temperament\/\" target=\"_blank\">temperament<\/a>. Parents should not feel guilty if their child is not easy to comfort and should do their best to comfort their child regardless of how irritable they are or how difficult it\u2019s to read their emotions.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em>Children should develop certain skills and reach certain developmental milestones<\/em><em>, in order to become emotionally competent and stable adults. <\/em>The most important of these emotional milestones\/skills, including <a title=\"This includes what a child knows about themselves. It is about knowing what one can and cannot do, in different aspects of life\">self-concept<\/a>, are listed below:<\/p>\n<table border=\"1\" cellspacing=\"8\" cellpadding=\"8\" align=\"center\" bgcolor=\"#99ffff\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<ul>\n<li>establishing eye contact with others<\/li>\n<li>establishing and maintaining eye contact with others<\/li>\n<li>smiling, and later laughing<\/li>\n<li>enjoying being handled<\/li>\n<li>smiling at familiar people<\/li>\n<li>knowing the difference between familiar people and strangers<\/li>\n<li>enjoying daily routines (such as bathing and feeding)<\/li>\n<li>responding to name being called<\/li>\n<li>recognizing self in mirror<\/li>\n<li>using parent or other familiar adults as a\u00a0<br \/>\n<a title=\"This involves a child using an adult to determine whether or not they should approach a situation, for example, with other children, or to engage in play with a certain toy. The child tries to read the parent (smile or frown) for approval or disapproval.\">social reference<\/a> (see full <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/files\/2012\/02\/ECI_Glossary.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">Glossary<\/a>)<\/li>\n<li>playing, alone in <a title=\"This involves a child playing by itself without needing someone to play with him\/er.\">solitary play<\/a> (see full <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/files\/2012\/02\/ECI_Glossary.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">Glossary<\/a>), and later, with others in <a title=\"This involves two or more children playing on their own, side by side.\">parallel<\/a> (see full <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/files\/2012\/02\/ECI_Glossary.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">Glossary<\/a>) AND <a title=\"This involves two or more children playing together.\">cooperative play<\/a> (see full <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/files\/2012\/02\/ECI_Glossary.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">Glossary<\/a>)<\/li>\n<li>engaging in <a title=\" The child pretends to be someone else. For example, pretending to be a super hero or imitating others while cooking or dressing-up.\">pretend play<\/a> (see full <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/files\/2012\/02\/ECI_Glossary.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">Glossary<\/a>)<\/li>\n<li>displaying basic emotions<\/li>\n<li>exploring their surroundings<\/li>\n<li>having a &#8220;favorite&#8221; or &#8220;best&#8221; friend<\/li>\n<li>displaying complex emotions<\/li>\n<li>recognizing feelings and emotions in self and others<\/li>\n<li>showing pride in achievements<\/li>\n<li>making positive statements about self or showing a strong <a title=\"This is related to self-concept. It is the value that we put on what we can and cannot do and is heavily influenced by one's culture and environment.\">self-esteem\u00a0<\/a>(see full <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/earlychildhoodintervention1\/files\/2012\/02\/ECI_Glossary.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">Glossary<\/a>)<\/li>\n<li>showing guilt over mistakes and\/or having done something they should not have done<\/li>\n<li>avoiding dangerous situations that may place them or others at risk<\/li>\n<li>describing their own feelings and emotions<\/li>\n<li>describing feelings and emotions in others<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<h3>Vignette<\/h3>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em><span style=\"color: #339966;\">Johnny was a term baby like his sisters, but was not an easy baby like them. He had trouble sleeping and reflux problem. But Johnny\u2019s parents knew that each baby is different. They did not compare the children. They loved and accepted him. His needs were met and he was given what he needed to grow and thrive. He turned into a happy and fulfilled boy.<\/span><\/em> <ins cite=\"mailto:User\" datetime=\"2012-04-30T22:58\"><\/ins><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Emotional development is a broad term that describes how a child develops, displays, regulates and understands feelings and emotions. The development of a child\u2019s self-concept and self-esteem (see full Glossary) are part of emotional development. Emotional development includes the development of emotional regulation, learning how to soothe and calm oneself. 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