Ellen Tsang

Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?”

– Fanny Brice –

In Junior High, I used to be insecure and lacked self assurance. One of my closest friends has gradually taught me that no matter what other people say, you should always believe in yourself, “Whatever you want to do or who you want to be, someone out there is going to dislike your or judge you for it, so might as well just go for it and listen to your own voice.”

A professor has also expressed before, “Just be yourself, and find the things which fit YOU best. There’s no use trying to fit a square into a triangular hole.”

I have come to understand this concept and I think that whilst we should be flexible and act according to what is most suitable during a particular situation, we should always try to be ourselves, without being disrespectful or rude of course, whether you are networking, at a job interview, or simply trying to make a new friend. If you forcefully attempt to fit yourself into a group or environment, it will just lead to negative consequences in the future when you find that you are unsuited for it.

I learnt to accept myself for who I am and found my ground, gained self-confidence. Now I can confidently say I love myself for who I am and there is no need to hide myself or change myself to fit in. We are who we are for a reason and we should celebrate this fact and learn to express our individuality honestly and openly to ourselves and the world.