I never understood the problem African American women had with interracial dating between black men and white women until I came to Canada. Before I go on I have to say, it is nothing personally to do with white women and mostly to do with SOME black men(Don\u2019t wanna get hit with the #notallblackmen).<\/p>\n
I am open to dating white men like a lot of other black girls in Vancouver but it becomes difficult when the majority of white men that hit on you see you as a conquest. \u201cYou know I like black girls\u201d, \u201cI have never tried hot chocolate\u201d, \u201cYou are pretty for a black girl\u201d are among the racist pickup lines black girls encounter on a normal night out. I mean even if they don\u2019t say it, one wonders if they are thinking it. I speak mainly on white men here because most guys from other races date within their race, at least from my observance.<\/p>\n
No Big deal, at least we still have black men right? WRONG! The stereotype of the \u2018Angry Black woman\u2019 has hunted us for too long and you\u2019d think black men would know better, with all the stereotypes they have to deal with. The amount of times I have heard a black guy say to me that he\u2019d rather date a white girl over a black girl because we are too much to deal with, is ridiculous. I have judged your whole existence as a normal functioning human being and we will never be having an intellectual conversation about race, gender, politics\u2026or anything of significance after such ignorance. BUT for those who are curious and don\u2019t particularly need a history lesson, I\u2019ll tell you why this evidently makes me heated, summarized in a quote from “Angry Black Woman: An Exploration of Black Women’s Responses to Interracial Relationships\u201d by Erica Chito Childs<\/p>\n
\u201cAs a Black woman, it is difficult enough to have to deal with whites who [act] as if [Black] is inferior, but it is even harder to have your own men act like white is better and systematically choose white women over you; it is hard not to get angry because it feels as if no one values your worth as a woman. You grow up with these men all your life, but then you’re not good enough to be a wife…. It’s disrespectful and degrading\u201d<\/p>\n
I have overheard a black African guy tell another black African guy when he had just arrived in Vancouver that he should just ignore the black girls in Vancouver and go for the white girls because he already had enough of that back home. The notion of white superiority is still rampant in our black communities and is evident in media with black men systematically choosing white women over black women after gaining success.<\/p>\n
And if you light skin black girls are not relating because you don\u2019t have this problem, it\u2019s probably because you are LIGHT SKIN. \u00a0I know ya\u2019ll have your own struggles but this isn\u2019t one of them.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I never understood the problem African American women had with interracial dating between black men and white women until I came to Canada. Before I go on I have to say, it is nothing personally to do with white women and mostly to do with SOME black men(Don\u2019t wanna get hit with the #notallblackmen). I […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":37216,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/37216"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=13"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13\/revisions\/14"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=13"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=13"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/jenebakamara\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=13"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}