{"id":20,"date":"2024-02-27T16:52:20","date_gmt":"2024-02-27T23:52:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstaverypatterson\/?p=20"},"modified":"2024-02-27T18:02:58","modified_gmt":"2024-02-28T01:02:58","slug":"quite-the-gaslighter-and-his-coquette-mother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstaverypatterson\/2024\/02\/27\/quite-the-gaslighter-and-his-coquette-mother\/","title":{"rendered":"Quimet the Gaslighter and his Coquette Mother"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Reading &#8220;The Time of the Doves&#8221; by Marc\u00e8 Rodoreda made me feel lots of big girl feelings, I was intrigued, disgusted, confused, furious, and most of all just straight up sad. I think this book speaks a lot to generational trauma, especially in women. It reminds me of the type of generational trauma that is brought up a lot today, female rage.<br \/>\nA quote that really stuck with me was from page 39, &#8220;I&#8217;ll (Father Joan from the church) marry you, and I think it&#8217;s better if you do it calmly. I know young people are high-spirited. They want to live and live fast\u2026but a life, if it&#8217;s really going to be a life, has to be lived slowly.&#8221; I resonated with this quote because often I feel that I go through life, especially in university, fast because I always am stressed and live my life by checklists and just getting the next thing done. But when the year end always get sad at how fast it went.<br \/>\nI noticed as well, though I&#8217;m not quite sure what it means, that colours were brought up many times throughout the novel. Noticeably the colour blue. In fact when I word searched &#8220;blue&#8221; apparently it comes up 61 times. Like I said I don&#8217;t know what this means, maybe it wasn&#8217;t intentional, maybe Rodoreda like the colour blue, maybe it&#8217;s because blue is associated with sadness.<br \/>\nQuimet was, I feel, the embodiment of a women&#8217;s worst nightmare. From the beginning I was practically screaming (in my head) at Natalia to RUN. He was a true gaslighter, not supportive or kind ever, and did not respect Natalia in any way right up until his death. I have a feeling she was attracted to the adventure he seemed to bring, and her poor ex, I guess nice guys do finish last. I think there is something to be said about Natalia&#8217;s character as she faces all the bad things that happen to her<br \/>\nI also had a bit of a laugh because of Quimet&#8217;s mother and her obsession with bows. There is a very prevalent trend right now where girls and putting bows on everything as a way to express femininity and girlhood, inspired by the trend of &#8220;coquette&#8221; and the uprising of &#8220;girl&#8221;. Bows will get tied around mens biceps or sports items and saying &#8220;im just a girl&#8221; or &#8220;this is me if you even care&#8221;. I know that the author could have never know this would be a trend today as her book was read but it gave me a good little chuckle as I find the trend cute and funny.<br \/>\nQuestion: Why do you think colour (especially blue) was brought up so much? Coincidence or meaning? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Reading &#8220;The Time of the Doves&#8221; by Marc\u00e8 Rodoreda made me feel lots of big girl feelings, I was intrigued, disgusted, confused, furious, and most of all just straight up sad. I think this book speaks a lot to generational trauma, especially in women. 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