{"id":29,"date":"2026-04-01T19:02:11","date_gmt":"2026-04-02T02:02:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/?p=29"},"modified":"2026-04-01T19:02:11","modified_gmt":"2026-04-02T02:02:11","slug":"debre-custody-and-social-roles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/2026\/04\/01\/debre-custody-and-social-roles\/","title":{"rendered":"Debr\u00e9 – Custody and Social Roles"},"content":{"rendered":"

I actually quite liked this novel and I think it has a lot of things to unpack! For some reason, it was one of the reads that really got me comfy (I\u2019m talking about a cup of tea, snuggled into bed, the whole combo). Gradually over the course, I think I made time to read the (almost) weekly books whenever I had the chance to. However, for this novel, I actually ended up reading little by little before bed every night. So, I guess that is why I found it to be such a nice read.<\/span><\/p>\n

Anyways, one of the things that stood out to me the most is the dynamic between the narrator, her son, and ex-husband. With the custody battle, personally, I feel like females tend to be more at a disadvantage? Not sure if that\u2019s the most accurate word. Naturally, our society puts so much weight onto mother\u2019s shoulders. Something I recall from another class is how when fathers take care of their children, they are seen as dedicated to their careers AND their family. On the other hand, when women take care of their children, it is almost always seen as expected and a sacrifice that is made without any \u201cspecial\u201d recognition.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A quote that I would like to highlight is \u201cincest had never occurred to me. It\u2019s such a rich crime, the basis of so many things, in mythology, in psychoanalysis, in literature, it\u2019s the foundation, the order of the world, of families, of civilization, the great taboo. It\u2019s got quite a ring to it, incest. A real man\u2019s crime\u201d (21). I am unsure if I am taking it too far but my question for this week would be: What does the author mean by \u201ca rich crime\u201d? Is it the idea that only people who have it all consider partaking in this crime? Especially since they are the ones that have nothing to lose?<\/span><\/p>\n

Another part I would like to talk about is \u201cshe says she\u2019s always like this at first, then it gets better, \u201conce the relationship\u2019s more stable\u201d\u201d (140). In one of the relationship courses I am in, we covered the concept of disillusionment this week, sort of perfect timing if you ask me. Anyways, it embodies destiny beliefs where people think certain things such as if you get married, our conflict will be resolved. Overall, these are some of the thoughts that I had while reading and what I was reminded of.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I actually quite liked this novel and I think it has a lot of things to unpack! For some reason, it was one of the reads that really got me comfy (I\u2019m talking about a cup of tea, snuggled into bed, the whole combo). Gradually over the course, I think I made time to read […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":107536,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[31],"tags":[11,22,12],"class_list":["post-29","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-debre","tag-family","tag-life","tag-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/107536"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=29"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29\/revisions\/30"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=29"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=29"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/rmstjennifer\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=29"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}