Best friends can describe each other in the best manner possible. You know this incredible person inside out and it’s just the best. You think you know this person when you laugh with them, have a good time with them, assist them when they won something or some other incredible time. And that’s the truth. It really is.
The best memories you make with someone are really the best and truest way we see ourselves. It’s the best form of you and I really feel that’s the person you should believe you actually are. All of us are more generous and kinder when we are happy.
There was a time when I was really in the dumps. I really didn’t know if it would get better. That’s a scary place to be in. I was terrified of the future. Just absolutely mortified. Everyone around me seemed fine but I couldn’t cope at all. I was ashamed of myself because I couldn’t cope. I didn’t like myself at all. My friends didn’t seem to like me very much either or at least that was the way I saw it.
I remember spending a few months with someone whom I consider one of my best friends today. She had been through a bad patch too but unlike me she was pragmatic and not so blindly idealistic. I don’t know if it was her strength or just her nature to take things head on, but she dealt with it much better than I dealt with my failures. And although, I’ve laughed with her and enjoyed all the good times, that was a time when she helped me the most and I hope I helped her in some way.
I think the greatest gift we gave each other at that time was forgiveness. We were so unable to forgive ourselves but we acted like each other’s proxy and forgave each other completely and in turn taught each other how to forgive ourselves.
After I forgave myself although that was a lengthy process, but she pushed me on that path, I felt so much better.
Which just got me thinking the other day, maybe I should forgive some people in my life too, the ones who felt terrible because maybe they are having a hard time forgiving themselves. Of course this doesn’t apply to every situation but when it’s a situation when people didn’t realize what effect they were having on you, maybe that’s the best solution. Maybe you can relieve them some of the burden.
