Are you like me: do you like to try new things? Do you believe that as long as you try you’ll get it eventually? That after asking for help and changing up the way you do things, you’ll get it right?
And that works most of the time. And you’ve proud of your refusal to give up
But then you don’t. You’ve tried a lot. You’ve put hours and hours of time. You’ve asked for help. You’ve contemplated giving up but you didn’t. You packed up everything you did, splurged on a Starbucks tea to bribe yourself, and worked on it.
You’ve worked on it again and again. Now it’s time to give up. Sometimes you have to give in. You can’t do it. It’s okay to admit defeat. I feel sad about it. I don’t like to give up in a fight. But here’s what I’m telling myself:
- I’m admitting defeat to this small thing so that I can achieve victory in the bigger picture
- I have to admit to myself that it was out of my scope.
- But by trying, I’ve already expanded what I can do. I’ve pushed myself and I’ve grown. Next time, I’m going to be able to do more than I did this time.
- I can learn a lot from giving up. Now that I’ve passed it on someone I highly respect and has decades of experience on me, I’m going to examine it after he’s done with it. I’m going to compare it and learn what was needed to done to improve it.
Even if you admit defeat, you’re still a fighter. Continue on to challenge yourself.