For most of my teenage years, I was overweight and borderline obese, but I did not have many challenges around my body image. As I approach my mid-20s, I have adopted a healthier, active lifestyle where I can appreciate my body as a sanctuary for my health, lifestyle habits, and self-perceptions. Nevertheless, I have noticed changes in my body image within these few years. Body image is defined as “a multidimensional construct that reflects a person’s feelings, attitudes, self-perceptions, thoughts, beliefs, cognitions, and behaviours related to their body appearance and function” (Sabiston et al., 2024, Body Image Dimensions and Their Measurement section, para. 1). As I grow older, I accept that my body’s appearance and function will continue to evolve. I am also reminded that this ongoing change carries into older adulthood for individuals like my mother.
My mother has worked over 25 years in the food service industry, and this career has kept her active on her feet. Nonetheless, she has experienced aches and pains from long days of walking and minimal exercise. Her complaints and concerns about her declined physical functioning have been central to the cognitive dimension of her body image in recent years. Compounding with the changes in her physical abilities, her appearance has also shifted over time.
My mother, Sheena, managing a Chinese restaurant since the 1990s
A hike to the High Knoll at Minnekhada Regional Park, September 25, 2022.
While both appearance and function are important influences on a person’s perception of their own body image, the functional aspect is far more impactful for older adults (Sabiston et al., 2024). This coalesces with greater social pressures for girls and women to appear thin (Sabiston et al., 2024). I notice these social ideals expressed by my mother especially when we exercise together in a public fitness centre. She demonstrates upward social comparison, which is the comparison of herself to others who are better off in her desired attributes including strength, flexibility, and endurance (Sabiston et al., 2024).
This perspective can contribute to a negative body image, despite being in a physical environment (fitness centre) that is intended to foster personal development, improve disciplinary habits, and body image. However, it can also serve as positive motivation to achieve her goals by working hard in the gym. The self-discrepancy theory describes this as reducing the discrepancy between who an individual is and who they aspire to be, also known as their “ideal self” (Sabiston et al., 2024).
Running on the track, June 11, 2024.
2024 has been a step towards practicing healthier habits and a leap towards further understanding my mother’s body image. I am incredibly proud of the initiative she has taken this year to get more active. We shopped for new running shoes and she put them to work at the track. Just look at her go! I know my mother is proud of herself, too. Especially after a week of consistent exercise and noticeable flexibility improvements from stretching, we share a mutual satisfaction over her fulfilled achievements. What I want to cultivate in my mother is this authentic pride, a body-related pride that is “distinguished by the focus being on behaviours and outcomes” (Sabiston et al., 2024, Body Image Dimensions and Their Measurement section, para. 2). I hope this will nurture a sense of body confidence in her as she continues to age and find physical activities that allow her to thrive physically and mentally.
This video by Stories for Caregivers provides fantastic insight on many aspects of aging and body image that are often overlooked. One key idea is that “our bodies age faster than our minds” (Stories for Caregivers, 2022), driving home the idea that despite the inevitabilities of aging, including changed appearances or functional abilities, older adults do not have to feel old. Youthfulness, or even a sense of it, can be achieved with meaningful exercise and valuable social support systems. I want to be that support for my mother by helping her embody a positive body image through a physically proactive lifestyle that consists of enjoyable activities, like running and stretching, and self-care habits, such as a skincare routine.
A final takeaway and gentle reminder for aging populations—and everyone, for that matter—is to learn about your body and body image as you age. Find things (e.g., activities, exercises, habits) that support your body image in a positive and meaningful way. Ultimately, do what you and your body enjoy. If you appreciate your body, your body will appreciate you.
References
Sabiston, C. M., Brunet, J. & Ferguson, L. (2024). Body Image in Sport and Exercise. In Crocker, P. R. E., Sabiston, C. M. & McDonough, M. (Eds.), Sport and exercise psychology: A Canadian perspective (5th ed.). Pearson Canada Inc.
Stories for Caregivers. (2022, September 13). Aging by Design: The Aging Body (3/8) [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQHGxoAw8bI&ab_channel=StoriesForCaregivers