{"id":1121,"date":"2015-03-16T01:01:51","date_gmt":"2015-03-16T08:01:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/?p=1121"},"modified":"2015-03-16T01:01:51","modified_gmt":"2015-03-16T08:01:51","slug":"some-feels-for-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/2015\/03\/16\/some-feels-for-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Some feels for you"},"content":{"rendered":"
(I wrote this almost two years ago. Definitely interesting to compare how I used to think about love to my current perception of it. Let me know what you think!)<\/div>\n
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Illusion About Love<\/strong><\/p>\n

There\u2019s a problem with this idea of love that I\u2019ve been fed all of these years. The problem is this: I have been taught to think that love is the sudden rush of emotion, this incredible feeling of simply wanting to fall into somebody\u2019s arms. The notion of labelling the various stages of a relationship sickens me. It\u2019s like, after two months you have to be at this place in your relationship. I find myself constantly looking for signs of what to do next. I\u2019m expecting the flowers and the rooftop poetry and the looking into each other\u2019s eyes and just knowing bullshit. I understand what\u2019s been missing, all along. What makes all the breaking up so messy, and what makes life after a relationship almost excruciating and ecstatic all at the same time.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no place for the growth of a good friendship, a good companionship even. Because there\u2019s the neutral phase when you feel nothing for someone, and then there\u2019s the looking-across-the-room and then there\u2019s the awkward silence that drives people crazy. But maybe that\u2019s just how I see it ending. Doesn\u2019t it happen like this \u2013 that the day after someone breaks up with you they pretend that the weeks, the months and years of knowing you just don\u2019t exist anymore? And that the way you deal with it is to write them into a fictional story and somehow find interesting ways to kill them off? Because that\u2019s what I\u2019ve been doing all of these years. All of the people I love have slowly drifted away from me, sometimes pretending that none of what we had ever existed in the first place. And to be honest, I\u2019m tired of the lonely gut-ripping feeling that I get when someone I love leaves me.<\/p>\n

So I\u2019m resolving to be a friend to someone above all else. I want to stand with someone through the drunken nights and through all of the sorrows that they\u2019ll face. Because in the end, that love, the nuanced gradual touch that goes beyond physicality, that\u2019s the love that will last anything. That\u2019s the love that I need to foster in me, and it\u2019s the love that will accept me as who I am. With all of my imperfections. It\u2019s the kind of love that I don\u2019t need to search for, or change myself to attain. It\u2019s the simple, nourishing love that will wash over me, one that seeps through every pore on my body, till I am fully immersed in it.<\/p>\n

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By: Skyler Wang<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

(I wrote this almost two years ago. Definitely interesting to compare how I used to think about love to my current perception of it. Let me know what you think!) \u00a0 Illusion About Love There\u2019s a problem with this idea of love that I\u2019ve been fed all of these years. The problem is this: I […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":29581,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1121","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1121","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/29581"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1121"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1121\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1123,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1121\/revisions\/1123"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1121"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1121"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ubc.ca\/waltergage\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1121"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}