One of the first things that stood out to me in My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante is how intense Lila and Lenù’s friendship is. It’s not just a normal “best friend” situation, it’s kind of messy. There’s a lot of jealousy, competition, and comparison going on. I kept noticing how much Lenù bases her self-worth on Lila, like she’s always trying to prove she’s just as smart or better. It made me think about how, growing up, friendships can shape how you see yourself more than anything else.
Another thing I found really interesting is the neighbourhood itself. It feels super limiting, like no one can really escape it. There’s a lot of violence and strict expectations, especially for girls, and that clearly affects both of them. What stuck with me is how both Lila and Lenù are really smart, but only Lenù gets the chance to keep going in school. Lila doesn’t, even though she might actually be the more brilliant one. That difference slowly creates distance between them, and it felt kind of unfair but also very real.
I really liked the writing style a lot. It’s very simple, but in a good way. Since Lenù is telling the story as an adult, there’s a lot of reflection and overthinking. She questions her memories and even admits she might not be remembering things perfectly. That made it feel more honest, like she’s trying to make sense of everything rather than just telling a clear and perfect story.
That being said, I didn’t always enjoy reading it. The vibe can get really heavy. There’s constant tension and violence in the neighbourhood, especially toward women, and it gets draining after a while. I also got kind of annoyed with Lenù sometimes because she’s so focused on Lila. It feels like she doesn’t really know who she is without comparing herself, which made me wonder if she ever actually becomes her own person. Lila, on the other hand, is just confusing. She’s obviously super smart and strong, but also unpredictable. Sometimes she seems like she wants to break out of her situation, and other times it feels like she’s giving in to it. I couldn’t always understand her choices, especially when she turns away from opportunities that could’ve helped her. It made me question if she’s actually in control of her life or not.
In class, I’d want to talk about whether their friendship is actually healthy or not. Like, is Lila pushing Lenù to be better, or kind of holding her back? And also, how much choice do they really have in their lives when their environment is so controlling?