Why I’m doing a Mental Health Week: Day 7

Technically today is Day 9, but I took a couple days off to spend time with family and attend to a bad day of my gastric condition. What I did, and aim to do every day, will stand as the last two thoughts I give to you for my Mental Health Week.

Day 7: It’s okay to put yourself first. It’s okay to be yourself.

We’re well into one of the busiest and most stressful times of year for students: grad school and scholarship applications, final exams and final papers, thesis submissions, and the holidays: travel, shopping, dinners, parties, and on it goes. It’s so easy to forget you and not put yourself first. It’s so easy to slide into performing for others and obsessing over meeting unfair standards and expectations at this time of year. Please know you are not alone.

Last week, I found an incredible cartoon on Bright Side by Yao Xiao illustrating situations in which we apologize for simply being who we are and what you can say instead that’s more positive, constructive, and kind to you and your mental health. It moved me to tears. I highly recommend checking it out (and Yao Xiao‘s work) and hope it resonates with you and gives you a new way of understanding and communicating how important and beautiful you are.

I hope you have enjoyed my Mental Health Week and found some helpful reminders, thoughts, and resources. Let’s keep the #mentalhealth conversation going and create a better, healthier student experience for all of us.

Why I’m doing a Mental Health Week: Day 4

Welcome to Day 4 of my Mental Health Week. With each post, I’m talking about a different lesson, tip, or experience linked to my mental health, struggles with depression and anxiety, and life as a UBC student.

Day 4: Hug something

Hug something

I would hug every single person I walk past on the street, sit next to in class, or stand next to on the bus if I could. Physical contact helps me cope with my depression, loneliness, and anxiety. I find that hugging a pillow close to my chest while I watch a movie or my stuffed gorilla while I fall asleep helps. Physical contact with another person can be a complicated thing for a lot of people, but the need for physical contact or “pressure” may still remain.

With the holidays around the corner and exams all around at UBC, stress and fear is high and it can be a scary time. I recommend hugging someone or something as a way of coping and being good to yourself, and celebrating all your hard academic work. It can be a tree, your best friend, the family dog, or a blanket. Whatever or whoever it is, hug something and repeat as often as needed. Especially yourself after you’ve finished every paper, exam, application, and project and kicked all their collective behinds!

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Why I’m doing a Mental Health Week: Day 3

Welcome to Day 3 of my week of mental health. If you’re new to my mental health week, I started it on Sunday after discovering BuzzFeed’s launch of their own mental health week across multiple languages, mediums, and topics. As a grad student at UBC, I’m trying to connect each of my posts on mental health with my UBC student experience in the hopes of helping to spread some love, joy, fresh insights, thoughts, and inspiration of my own with one of the most important communities in my life: UBC students.

Without further ado, here is a famous quote that I am constantly re-reminded of and repeat to myself in times of mental and physical distress.

 

Inspiring Quote

 

Take, leave, or replace the “God” part. The sentiment is the same any way and I think of it as a life-long journey. So as you study hard for your final exams, submit your applications for grad school, write your final papers, and design your art projects and business plans, repeat this gem of wisdom to yourself. My tip? Once the paper is submitted and the exam is done, you have done your work and you cannot change it. So, breathe deeply, pat yourself on your back, and allow yourself the courage to take care of yourself and put you first. You deserve it.

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