I want to compare The Lovely Bones with a book that I was thinking of quite often while reading it, The Tibetan Book of the Dead. I feel as if the two books come from a similar intention: to explain what happens when we die and to comfort us.
The best way for me to quickly relate the relevance of the Book of the dead is to quote a documentary I recently watched,
‘Death is real it comes without warning and cannot be escaped’. (From the movie The Tibetan book of the Dead. The story about Ladakh is from this source as well. This is abridged) In what used to be Western Tibet, now Ladakh India, a man has died. His family cries as they await a Buddhist yogi to come to read the Tibetan Book of the dead.
The holy man will read the book every day for 49 days. According to Tibetan belief the consciousness of the man is able to hear and will linger for 49 days. The text’s message to the consciousness is, “that which is called death has now arrived… recognize the luminosity before you it the essence of your own mind, …both life and death are a flow of uncertain transitions … Now is the time for you to seek a path. You are not alone everyone who has come before you has died … now I will abandon clinging to this body to this world I will go forward and abandon fear and terror I will recognize whatever appears as a projection of my own mind.
At death we lose everything that is real. Unless we can let go of all the things we cherished in our life we are terrified.
Carl Jung called the Tibetan book of the Dead his life’s partner in whom he found the secrets of his own soul.
The Lovely Bones is a novel that also tries to answer for us what happens after death. It is the story of a girl who is murdered, and her first few years in the afterlife as she continues to follow the story of those in her family.
There are some basic assumptions about death that Lovely Bones makes. The first is that there is an afterlife. The dead person is able to travel anywhere on earth and can see and hear and cannot be seen or heard themselves; they can make themselves known by allowing their presence to be felt. There is a similarity to the Tibetan belief here.
In this afterlife there is a heaven. The book makes no mention of hell. The heaven that is mentioned consists of a first-stage heaven where the person who has recently died is able to construct their surroundings out of anything they can conceive and desire. They are not alone but instead have a couple of people who have intersecting conceptions of ideal environments and spend time together when and where these conceptions and environments intersect.
There is a second level of heaven described in the book as being one of more general comfort. It is a place the author describes as one where you could just enter a room and hold a stranger’s hand for and hour.
The process to move from one level to the next is the closure that happens in the dead person’s own heart as they come to terms with their own death and the closing of the gap left by the dead person as the people they knew on earth, their family and friends, finally are healed.
In the Tibetan Book of the dead the desire to hang on to the things we cherished in life, the people, places and possessions, is called attachment, as in Lovely Bones, it is an obstacle to moving on.
Stories about death have been around for as long as humans have had language. I love comparative mythology, and though I am not an expert, I would like to thank you for indulging me on this Blog. I have always been fascinated by the work of Joseph Campbell and his study of the common parts of the stories we tell as humans and the most common, and in fact inescapable, of these is death.