Oof that was an interesting read. I usually like books written from a woman’s perspective especially when they are about girlhood and the experience of female friendships etc. However, this was just a super messy friendship, which I guess is relatable up to a point, but at the same time I rather read something more feel good. However, I also cannot deny I don’t like reading and learning about the tea hahahaha. Like please tell me in vicarious detail about more about the character’s relationships and messy breakups.
Their friendship is interesting because it seems like they are the bestest of friends wanting similar things but at the same time on different paths. Especially with Lila being smarter and more naturally gifted than Lenù. I lowkey feel bad for Lenù because its not really her fault that Lila is smarter, and of course she is bound to compare herself with someone she spends that much time with and considers to be such a close friend.
It was however extreme opp behavior during the part in middle school when Lila tries to mess up Lenù entrance exam even if she did end up changing her mind and not going through with it. I feel like even having that idea in the first place is so oppish. Also the part of the book when Lila pulls a knife against Marcello reminded me of that one Ariana Grande Cynthia Erivo meme where someone tries attacking Ariana Grande so Cynthia charges forward to protect her.
Something I enjoyed about the novel is the progression. I have a soft spot for books which begin with someone at a old age and then do a reverse story time of their life progression and kind of share a lifetime through the novel, it just feels so real and wholesome, like life really is that deep. A part of the book which frustrated me was the neighbourhood environment. It was especially annoying seeing the women fight each other over their husband’s mistakes like guys we need to see who the real common enemy is instead of fighting each other. I also thought the part where Lenu is worried about losing her friendship with Lila when she is about to get married is kind of real ngl even if it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. It kinda scares me too thinking of my closest friends getting married (obviously not any time soon I think we are a bit too young) but still I would not be ready for that change I feel like.
Questions for discussion ; Have you ever had a messy friendship like this?

