5 Negative Behaviours That Are Actually Healthy

By: Elise Benito

Being angry sometimes

If you’re mad, scream. Shout at somebody or don’t talk to anyone if you don’t want to. You can sleep all day and ignore every responsibility you have. Don’t sleep at all and spend your time ranting on every social media possible. It’s okay because it will teach you the importance and benefit of forgiveness. You will learn to forgive others. It will help you understand that people make mistakes but most of them don’t mean to hurt you. You will learn to forgive yourself for the bad decisions you made. Forgiveness can make a heavy heart lighter.

Crying

It won’t make you less of a person if you’re the one to cry. Tear glands were put there for a reason and that is to wash away whatever it is that’s blocking your vision. It could be the dust that piled up on the memories you shouldn’t be keeping. Maybe it’s time for you to clean up your closet or your mind. Get two boxes and label each as follows: give away and keep. You’re going to need space in your brain for new memories and that exam you have to study for.

Moving on

Over time, you will lose connection with your grade school best friend or your ex-girlfriend from college. You will remember them out of the blue and miss them. There will come a day that you’ll drop your phone in the toilet and won’t be able to resuscitate it. A friend will borrow your favorite book and never return it. The night you’ll lose your virginity will either break you or show you the love of your life. These things will leave you empty but believe that this is only temporary. It will be replaced by better versions of what you had before. An upgrade of some sort – an iPhone, a more mature partner, or a new favorite book. Raise your hands to the sky and catch what the universe will give you.

Being lost

Everybody gets lost a couple of times in their lives. It will take you days, months, or even year to get yourself out of that ditch. But it is during those times that you will find out where you really want to go. Take your time. Nobody can or should rush you. It is your life that you’ll be living out, not theirs. Try new things. If you’ve never rode a plane, go do it. Maybe a pretty girl will seat beside you and then you’ll click. Meet new people. Maybe she knows a way. Maybe she wants to walk with you until you find a way. Ride cars, busses, boats, cruise ships, trucks, space shuttles, and bikes. You’ll get there someday, wherever it is.

Being alone

There are days when you’ll need to be away from people even when you don’t want it. You’ll learn to take care of yourself more. Nobody knows your needs more than yourself but you can’t do that when you’re too focused on other people. They can take care of themselves and so do you. So walk by yourself. Eat by yourself. Sleep by yourself. Get a beer and spend the night watching people interact. Go see a movie alone and appreciate the fact that nobody keeps asking you to explain what’s happening on screen.

I usually avoid negative feelings thinking that it will only drag me down. I thought that ignoring them would make them go away or I would just forget about it. While the negativity is still there, I waste my time in front of the laptop and distract myself with cat gifs, tips for the 20-somethings, and endless list of irrelevant things. I do that until I fall asleep at four in the morning and do the same routine the next day. But I’m getting tired of it and I feel like I’m beating myself up. You and I can’t lose to ourselves. You and I should start seeing the negativity from a different perspective.

You need to accept those things happen but it happens for a reason. It happens and it will leave you with experiences and lessons for the next 50 years of your life. Tread lightly. Let things go, let things grow. Be kind to the people you meet along the way. Be kind to yourself, most of all.

Planned Happenstance – Embracing the Opportunities That Come Your Way

In today’s society, many students are told to “follow your heart” or to “do what you love and the rest will follow”. However, these words can seem empty and vague for those who know how competitive the job market can be, especially as an increasing number of students are emerging with university degrees all over the world. When going through the motions of life, there is often a tendency to think that in order to achieve success, students need to move forward in a logical, linear direction. But what exactly is the “correct” decision to achieve success? What happens when your “game plan”, the plan you have worked towards your whole life, is no longer an option? What happens when a problem or life-changing situation occurs to you or the people around you, and your plans need to be drastically altered? Indeed, it can be quite devastating to find yourself feeling panicky and lost when you have calculated out your life to the tiniest detail, only to have those plans derailed.

Moreover, in a world with thousands of job possibilities and schooling opportunities, students are often pressed for time. With the engrained notions that “you should finish school as soon as possible” in addition to “keep going to school until you figure it out”, it can again, be stressful to think about life passions and “doing what you love”, when students are pressured to choose something right away. As a result, many students end up concentrating on one field, and often, this choice occurs more out of necessity, rather than through a student’s enjoyment or genuine interest of the field. While in a whirlwind of lectures, papers, research, volunteer, work, family, friends, and having a social life, sometimes it can be a struggle to find out what your true passion even is because of the daily grind of everyday demands.

With all of the above in mind, how can students become successful, happy, and find a career path in something that they enjoy? According to Mitchell, Levin, and Krumboltz (1999), the answer is Planned Happenstance. This theory emphasizes upon the role of chance, and taking advantage of unplanned opportunities that come along. This theory suggests that “by engaging in effective behaviors, students can turn chance events into productive opportunities by developing skills in areas like curiosity, persistence, flexibility, optimism, and risk taking.”

Here are some tips from UCalgary (which is mixed in with some tips of my own) for using planned happenstance to your advantage:

1. Explore things that you are curious about: hobbies, occupations, school subjects. Try a new activity, or look up that occupation that you are interested in, check out volunteer opportunities, attend a presentation on a topic that interests you, or take a course in an area new to you, either for credit or for fun! Increasing your exposure to more things will increase the likelihood of discovering exciting opportunities.

2. Be open-minded and flexible to new experiences: Don’t let fear of failure, indecision, or a bad first impression throw you off from exploring opportunities, both big and small. Perhaps you will find one or two experiences to be very enjoyable, and these experiences will lead to something in your future. Of course, the opposite can also happen, where the opportunities that come our way don’t match our perceived “ideal”. In that case, great! Now you know that at least you have tried it, and probably won’t do it again in the future. It’s all about the experience.

4) Be optimistic: assume good things may result from accepting unexpected invitations, attending networking events, and trying new activities. You might meet new people with common interests through work and volunteer, and make some great connections by being open to the different types of people and places you will go.

5) Take risks and get involved: It’s not always comfortable to contact people to ask them about the work they do, or to apply to a job, or to travel to somewhere new, or attend a networking event where you may meet important people. They pay off (meeting someone who can help you with your career planning, being offered a job, experiencing the adjustments of traveling and discovering more about yourself as you do, and learning about your career options), however, is worth it!

6. Accept failure as success: Sometimes situations or risks you take will not work out in the end. And that’s okay. It can be due to bad timing, luck, lack of experience, or perhaps it was not the right fit for you. Just remember that every experience is a learning experience, and that you have grown and uncovered more about yourself and your preferences because of it. If you think of things in this light, then you will not regret anything that you have done.

Lastly, remember that YOU are the one who is responsible for yourself, so something to think about as you venture through your university years is getting out of your comfort zone and taking initiative in bettering yourself. If you are constantly working to discover new things, you are also on your way to discovering yourself and what the world can offer to you.

Mitchell, K., Levin, A. & Krumboltz, J. (1999). Planned happenstance: Constructing unexpected career opportunities. Journal of Counseling and Development, 77, 115–124.
Planned Happenstance. UCalgary, n.d. Web. 04 Mar. 2014.

by Eva Chan

TED talks are coming to Vancouver!

The Vancouver move, my favorite talk & the 20 most popular talks

For the last few years TED has become a regular talking and reference point for me with all the new and innovative ideas being shared by extremely talented people. I’m especially excited for the conference this year (in March) because it is being held in my home town of Vancouver! In celebration, I want to share the reason why TED decided to move, some popular talks that anyone new to TED can watch to learn what all the hype is about and share my personal favorite talk.

TED has spent five years in Long Beach, but have decided to try a new space in Vancouver, a city that’s itself an inspiration — cosmopolitan, energetic, innovative, yet with unrivaled natural beauty, surrounded by mountains and water. The conference will be held in the recently completed convention center because it is a truly spectacular meeting space in a beautiful, peaceful corner of the city. TED isn’t moving to accommodate more people — in fact they’re slightly reducing audience size. Vancouver was chosen because it is a venue that can do even more to inspire creative thinking and dynamic ideas.

So what is TED all about? Well with over 1600+ posted talks, each representing an idea worth spreading, it can get fairly daunting. So below are the 20 most-watched talks as of December 2013 which anyone new can use as starting point to see what it’s all about. What really makes this list so incredible is the fact that it spans so many areas of interest, from education to happiness, statistics to creativity, tech demos to illusions. This list revels in the wonders of the human brain, as well as in the incredible creatures of the deep sea, and far beyond.

Sir Ken Robinson says schools kill creativity (2006): 23,510,221 views
Jill Bolte Taylor‘s stroke of insight (2008): 14,343,197
Simon Sinek on how great leaders inspire action (2010): 14,228,854
Brene Brown talks about the power of vulnerability (2010): 12,703,623
Amy Cuddy on how your body language shapes who you are (2012): 12,682,694
Pranav Mistry on the thrilling potential of SixthSense (2009): 12,068,105
Tony Robbins asks why we do what we do (2006): 10,425,014
David Gallo‘s underwater astonishments (2007): 10,266,221
Mary Roach on 10 things you didn’t know about orgasm (2009): 9,435,954
Daniel Pink on the surprising science of motivation (2009): 9,176,053
Pattie Maes and Pranav Mistry demo SixthSense (2009): 8,363,339
Dan Gilbert asks: Why are we happy? (2004): 7,788,151
Hans Rosling shows the best stats you’ve ever seen (2006): 7,685,726
Elizabeth Gilbert on nurturing your creative genius (2009): 7,593,076
Steve Jobs on how to live before you die (2005): 7,223,258
Susan Cain shares the power of introverts (2012): 6,807,240
Keith Barry does brain magic (2004): 6,371,778
David Blaine reveals how he held his breath for 17 minutes (2010): 6,359,084
Pamela Meyer on how to spot a liar (2010): 6,256,589
Arthur Benjamin does mathemagic (2005): 4,951,918

And finally, my personal favorite TED talk, “If I should have a daughter …” by poet Sarah Kay. Her poems rip at my heart strings and inspire me to be a more creative human being. Sigh. I love her. A little about her: A performing poet since she was 14 years old, Sarah Kay is the founder of Project VOICE, an organization that uses spoken word poetry as a literacy and empowerment tool.

I hope this blog and the upcoming TED talks in March inspire you too.

by Liam Loxton

Dealing with Mondays

Ever dreaded waking up on a Monday for an 8am class, reaching Starbucks or Tim Horton’s and the line seems never ending, so you leave for class without a hot beverage? Well dread no more! These five easy tips for making your Mondays brighter will allow you to enjoy a better start to the week.

Tip #1: Get a travel mug and prepare your first hot beverage for the day at home. A tea bag, instant coffee, or my personal favourite warm chocolate milk can help you skip the morning rush and then you can get your usual drink after your first class.

Tip #2: Prepare your favourite lunch the night before; this way you have something delightful to look forward to for the afternoon and make sure it’s nutritious an filling to replenish your energy levels. You could even spoil yourself a little by treating yourself to a cookie – I personally love a good lemon bar on a Monday.

Tip #3: Organize your backpack with your books and notes on Sunday. It prevents you from scrambling around early in the morning, wishing you had your mom around to do these things for you.

Tip #4: Pick a really great TV show or movie that you can treat yourself to at the end of the night just before bed. This will keep you at full throttle for the day in excitement of that great relaxing hour – it may help you have some pretty creative dreams.

Tip #5: Smile. A great day starts with the right attitude – so when you wake up, just smile and if you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours! You never know the impact you’ll have on a stranger by just flashing your pearly whites.

Hope all you grumpy cats now have fabulous Mondays!

by Sanaah Dodhia

UBC TACS

Are you confused about taxes? Do you want to learn how to file your income tax return and give back to the community? Join UBC TACS!

UBC Tax Assistance Clinic for Students (UBC TACS) is a student-run organization that assists students and low-income individuals in tax return preparation from late February to the end of March. We are currently looking for student supervisors and volunteers to help our 1700+ clients file their income tax returns.

Applications are open to students from ALL faculties who are interested in learning more about filing personal income tax returns and are passionate about giving back. No experience in tax is required and training will be provided. This year, the clinic runs from February 25 to March 31, 2014.

Benefits:
– Gain volunteer hours 
– Develop stronger communication, management, problem-solving, and leadership skills 
– Gain relevant tax and accounting experience 
– Have the opportunity to network with professionals in the accounting industry 
– Certificate of recognition from the Canada Revenue Agency upon successful completion of the program 
– Receive first-hand training from the Canada Revenue Agency
– Meet new people!

Deadline for supervisor applications are Friday, January 10, 2014 at 11:59 PM

Deadline for volunteer applications are Thursday, January 16, 2014 at 11:59 PM

Visit http://apply.ubctacs.org/ for applications and details.

Facebook Event page: https://www.facebook.com/events/234470513397712/

Feel free to email us at volunteers@ubctacs.org with any questions!

Residence Advisor Recruitment

Looking for an involvement opportunity next year? We are actively recruiting students to be Residence Advisors. Many RAs tell us this was an amazing experience and most re-apply. Highlights of the job include: community building, teamwork, and experience with event planning, project management as well as personal development. We’re looking for hard-working, outgoing, and responsible staff members to help enhance the residence life experience for other students. If you want to be part of providing a place that helps students succeed, while having fun, we want to hear from you.

REQUIREMENTS

1. Be a registered UBC student and meet the requirements to live in the assigned residence area.
2. Live in assigned staff accommodation, and are not permitted to share their staff accommodation with another person, unless they have received prior written authorization from the Assistant Director Residence Life.
3. Take part in the residence meal plan if the assigned residence area requires participation in a meal plan.
4. Maintain an academic standing of 65%.
5. Any other proposed employment or extra-curricular activity must be discussed with and approved by the Residence Life Manager before the Residence Advisor can commit to it. Five to ten hours per week of additional employment and/or extra-curricular involvement is a guideline.
6. Prior to signing an Advisor Employment Contract, any proposed time away from residence (including academic practicums, placements, field school, etc.) must be discussed with and approved by the RLM.
7. Residence Advisors must provide a Criminal Record Search to document that no relevant criminal record exists.
8. An Advisor may reapply for a position in Residence Life in subsequent years. Each applicant will participate in a returner-hiring process. Previous employment does not guarantee a future position with the department.

TERM OF APPOINTMENT
For the period of mid-August 2014 through May 2, 2015 only.

REMUNERATION
For the term of appointment, the Residence Advisor receives $7,120.

More information including job description and how to apply can be found here: www.housing.ubc.ca/employment/residence-life/171

Making the Most of 24/7

Ever feel like even if you added an extra Saturday, cut out Mondays, and bumped up your available hours for sleep up to 14, you still would feel like you didn’t have time for yourself? I know I do, more weeks than I’d like. Getting the most of your time may take some adjustments; here are some tips on where to start!

Stop spending so much time on social media

I know this is my greatest time-sucker. Some of my friends deactivate their accounts during exam time. Others disconnect Internet during work periods. A trick I use is to allow myself 5 minutes of social media time for every 20 of studying. Experiment with what works for you, and remember, it will still be there when you’re done your midterm!

Know yourself

Do you work or study best in complete silence, but really want to blast some Queen B? Are you still tired even after 8 hours of sleep? Okay, maybe these questions are just to myself. Either way, knowing what works and what slows work for you is essential to success. This may mean you have to do some experimenting. Try studying with music, in silence, in the library, in your room, in the kitchen etc. once you’ve found a favorite space, you can get in your zone and study effectively.

Be okay with saying “no”

Often when we feel that others are depending on us, we will stretch ourselves thin to help them out, even when we’re already busy and stressed. Out of fear that we will let people down, we knowingly take on more than we can handle. Doing this often increases your stress, which no one needs more of! A way to politely let someone know you’re too busy might be: “I have already committed to a lot this week; is there anything I can do to help out next week? I want to make sure I have the time to do my best”. Don’t be scared to say “another time”!

Don’t slack on sleep

Sleep is more important than we give it credit for sometimes. University students need at least 6 hours of sleep a night, and for many 8 or 9 is necessary to feel fully rested. While all-nighters are tempting, and okay every so often,

Napping is okay!

I never napped until I came to university, and now I don’t know what I’d do without them! A quick 20-minute nap revitalizes your mind and refreshes you so you can get back to work. Try to limit your naps to 40 minutes or less though, because past that point your brain slips into the second stage of sleep, making it harder to get up and leaving you feeling possibly more tired than you did before!

Stay on top of your health

What you put into your body has a huge affect on how you feel. Try to balance your meals, including something from each food group in each meal. Often, exercise time is one of the first things that get cut when we feel pressed for time. However, a workout doesn’t have to take a long time! Even a half-hour run will make a difference in your day. It’s easier to use your brain when your body feels good too!

By Gabe Ricci

Apply now to be a Squad Leader!

UBC Orientations is currently recruiting squad leaders who will be responsible for the coordination and delivery of integrated orientation and transition programming for our incoming class of first year students.

In an effort to align student leadership opportunities across Imagine UBC and Jump Start, we are recruiting squad leaders for both programs.

The squad leader positions for both Imagine UBC and Jump Start have many similarities. Responsibilities of the position include:

  • Building and supporting an engaged community of leaders through in person, group and online connections.
  • Providing logistical support for the planning and delivery of the first year experience, including leader recruitment, selection and training.
  • Supporting transition program planning for new to UBC students.
  • Being a positive role model and representative of UBC.

The skills and experiences students gain through the squad leader role include: awareness of the needs of students in transition, facilitation, written and verbal communication, time management, organization, active listening, problem solving, and experience working with diverse teams.

Students are invited to choose the program they apply for based on the time they can commit to the role and whether or not they’re especially interested in working with international and Aboriginal students.

While the recruitment committees will be selecting for the specific roles, students who apply to be a squad leader for one of the programs will automatically be considered for all positions with orientation programming that they are qualified for.

Application deadlines

  • Students interested in working with Imagine UBC are invited to apply by November 10.
  • Students interested in being a Squad Leader for Jump Start have until November 20 to apply.

Please feel free to contact Jasmine Khungorey jasmine.khungorey@ubc.ca with any further questions you may have about the positions.

Check out this UBC FYI blog post for more information!

A Good Night’s Sleep

Getting a good night’s sleep is more important than you think.  Sleep problems can have a negative effect on our mental health by influencing our emotions, thoughts, behaviors and body sensations.

 Emotions: If your sleep is disturbed, you might feel irritable, grumpy, numbed out, sad, anxious, worried or stressed.

 Thoughts: Sleep problems can make it difficult to concentrate or think clearly, or make decision the next day

 Behaviors: We are more likely to avoid our usual activities when we are experiencing sleep problems.

 Body Sensations: Sleep difficulties can leave us feeling tired, drowsy and worn out.

 Although sleep problems are common, there are some easy ways to improve the quality of your sleep. Many people find their physical and mental well being also improves when their sleep improves. Here are 7 useful tips to help improve your night’s sleep.

 1. Follow the same routine- try to keep the same sleep and wake schedule everyday, setting your internal clock.

 2. Avoid caffeine, alcohol, smoking and exercising at least 2 hours before bedtime. These can cause some disrupted or trouble sleeping.

 3. Avoid being hungry or eating heavily before going to bed; instead eat balanced meals and snacks at regular intervals during the day.

 4. Make your bedroom comfortable and only use it for sleeping- Avoid using your bed for watching TV, work, studying, or any other mentally stimulating activities.

 5. Get up if you do not fall asleep within half an hour. Leave your bedroom and do something relaxing and later return when you’re feeling drowsy. Over time this will likely reverse sleep problems.

 6. Avoid taking naps if you are experiencing sleep problems. If you do take a nap, try to keep it to 45 minutes or less.

 7. Challenge the belief we can’t function without a perfects nights sleep- Don’t get anxious if you aren’t able to sleep and are worried about your productivity the next day.     

Quiet Hours are the most important residence standard for a reason. 

QUIET HOURS

Sunday to Thursday          10pm-7am

Friday to Saturday             1am-7am

For more information on:

 How to get a good night’s sleep
http://www.helpguide.org/life/sleep_tips.htm

What happens if you don’t get a good night’s sleep.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_deprivation

How Much is Enough?

 It’s different for everyone- some people need more than others but most need 6-8 hours. If you are frequently tired or irritable during the day or find yourself sleeping an extra 2 hours each night on weekends, then you’re probably not getting enough. 

It’s not just enough sleep – it’s about getting the right kind of sleep as well. Student who don’t get enough REM sleep perform way worse recalling newly learned information. It’s the last couple of hours of sleep that contain the most REM sleep – it’s the good quality REM sleep that suffers.

Revitalize your Resolutions

Revitalize your Resolutions!

 

What comes to mind when you hear the phrase “New Year’s resolution”? Do you think of people saying they want to quit smoking, improve their diet, or exercise more? Do you think of people giving up their resolution before February 1st? Last year, Time.com posted a list of 10 of the most commonly broken New Year’s resolutions. Two of them were “lose weight and get fit” and “eat healthier and diet”. Why do New Year’s resolutions to get healthy often fail? Maybe it’s because they’re not SMART.

 

A SMART goal is specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely. It should be something you are highly motivated to do and think will be easy to achieve. Success with one SMART goal can boost your confidence and lead you to tackle another, slightly more challenging SMART goal. “I will stop eating junk food” is not a SMART goal. “This week, I will snack on vegetable sticks instead of chips while I study” is a SMART goal. Here are more examples of SMART goals for healthy eating.

 

  • I will drink water instead of buying pop or juice when I am thirsty this month. Tip: carry a reusable bottle with you and fill it at water fountains or sinks.
  • I will choose the vegetarian option at dinner once a week. Tip: the vegetarian option will often be higher in fibre and lower in saturated fat than the meat option.
  • I will eat vegetables or fruit at every meal this week. Tip: choose a variety of colourful vegetables and fruit, especially dark green and orange ones.
  • I will choose whole wheat or whole grain bread products at least once a day. Tip: “multi-grain” does not equal whole grain.
  • I will not buy food from a vending machine this week. Tip: purchase and carry around some healthy non-perishable snacks such as nuts, dried fruit, or low-sodium pretzels.

 

So now it’s up to you. Pick one of the ideas I’ve listed above or come up with a SMART goal of your own. Follow through with it, and then, once it has become part of your normal routine, add another. Step by step, small SMART goals can help you reach your larger goal. Here’s to a healthy New Year!

 

Katrina Goertzen

Year 4 Dietetics, UBC

 

Cruz, G., Tharoor, I., Silver, A., & Webley, K. (2012, Jan. 1.) Top Ten Commonly Broken New        Year’s Resolutions. Retrieved from http://www.time.com