45. Go dancing

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Free dance lessons and performances are back at Robson Square after a three year hiatus. Next Friday is the last session of the summer — if you’re interested, take a look at the DanceSport BC page for more information.

(P.S. Bag checks are available at the rink at $2 per item if you have valuables you’re afraid of losing and have no one you can sic them onto.)

Well, what do you know…

Sorting through my notes from last year to decide what to keep and what to discard, I found a few scribbled sentences from a mental health conference I attended in October. One that caught my eye was:

Helping someone else produces endorphins in the helper — helping others helps you cope with your problems.

While the happy feeling you get from helping someone else is not news to me, it’s interesting that helping others also increases your capacity to handle your own issues. (Unfortunately, I can’t place who said that or where that comes from, but I’m sure someone can correct this statement if it’s far off.)

Have you found anything lately that surprised you?

(And this was too good not to share…)

Character 1: "Hello. Oh, so you are angry? I know how to deal with grumpy people! Take this!" The two hug. Character 2: "I'm confused." Character 1 (while hugging): "Die, bitch!"

On another note, are you looking for well-paying jobs on campus? Find out about Work Study (for domestic students) or Work Learn (for international students) on the Career Services page, including eligibility criteria, and apply early through CareersOnline.

You can also take a look at the post I wrote last year on Finding Work On Campus for other ideas if you don’t manage to land a Work Study/Work Learn position (these are fairly competitive, after all).

Things I Love Thursday

books under staircase

I would love to live in a place with this so much. One day! One far, far off day. In the meantime:

♥ A shout-out goes to my fabulous friends who helped me move out of my last place and are safeguarding half of my belongings until I move into the next one. I couldn’t have done it so quickly without you!

♥ Thanks also go to my parents for giving me an older brother. It’s like having a personal chauffeur, handyman, odd jobs boy, moving man, tech support and grocery supplier all in one — for free!

♥ The Beaty Biodiversity Museum is this amazing, surprisingly large museum right on campus that I only just passed through last week. They have many more collections than I was expecting and I can’t wait to make the time to go again and really look through it all.

♥ Summer days, sitting next to my brother in the car, listening to music as we drive along and the skies are moving sheets of beauty.

♥ I’ve been on a stint of listening to ’90s Chinese music lately, one of which is David Tao’s 流沙 (Liú Shā).

♥ Long walks in the sunshine with no real destination in mind — and bubble-blowing! Particularly next to abandoned train tracks.

♥ Somewhat embarrassingly, I’ve only just started looking — really looking — at Portraits of UBC. (The last time I glanced at the Facebook page was several months ago when my friend said, ‘GO LOOK AT MY PHOTO!’ and I obeyed.) I’ve been a bit down this week, but looking at people’s happy, smiling faces helps to cheer me up. Thanks for doing such great work, Rabi!

Coming back to starts

How amazing is it that email these days can store everything you’ve been saying and receiving for the past several years? Not only that, but being able to search and rediscover things you’d forgotten you’d even done.

The other day, I found the exact date of The Ticket that brought me away from Hong Kong and dropped me in Vancouver to begin a new life. This week marks the fourth year since that landing date. I’m a little in wonder of it all: of how my parents were willing to let me go so far away from them, of how lucky I am that I could, of the growing space between that frightened, eager eighteen-year-old girl I was then and the (only fractionally) less frightened, less eager person I am now.

Rereading my panicked emails to my friends and family about the items I ultimately forgot to pack, I remember all those questions racing through my head. Will I be able to make friends? Will I succeed at university? Will I be able to take care of myself? After all, the only thing I’m confident of making for breakfast is cereal…

But also the hopes: I hope I meet great people. I hope I have classes that change how I think in whole new ways. I hope I get to travel and see even more of the world. I hope I love it all.

I want to turn to myself from four years ago and say: you will, you will, you will.

You’ll meet some of the most amazing, admirable individuals you’ve come across in your short life, as long as you put yourself out there. You’ll find those classes that blow your world away, as long as you keep challenging yourself. You’ll have more opportunities to do what you dream of than you’ll know what to do with, so choose the ones that speak most to you (and don’t try to do them all, because that’s not possible).

You’ll find real friends after your heart, with patience, effort and a little bit of luck. You’ll succeed at university when you follow your interests, when you put in the time and effort, and when you ask questions and seek advice for when you don’t get things right. And you’ll totally learn how to fry an egg. Never mind if it doesn’t look pretty.

You probably won’t love it all — that’s a little too much to ask. Life has its way of throwing bits of grief your way when you least expect it, after all, and the imperfections are what throw the better bits into appreciative relief. But I promise you will love your UBC life if you give it the best chance possible by coming with an open heart and an open mind.

View from Gage

The very first view I got from Walter Gage where I stayed for ASSIST (now Jump Start)

UBC Jump Start starts this week. A longer, more intensive orientation than GALA for students coming from abroad (and this year, also for aboriginal students), this was where I first threw myself into UBC and met some of the most awe-inspiring individuals you’ll still see all over the place on campus (those that haven’t graduated this year, anyway). Here is where I met one of my very good friends to this day, where I met another to whom I just said goodbye, and where my world began to open up just that little bit more.

Even if you aren’t going to Jump Start, their blog is a good resource for those of you who want to get a head start on understanding the great, mad adventure that UBC can be.

(Maybe it’s all the reminiscing I’ve been doing with friends since first-year, or maybe it’s the short hair I haven’t had since 2007, but I keep thinking of all the things and resources I wish I’d known about earlier, or did find useful when someone told me. In light of that, I’ll be mentioning at least one per week for the next few months. Like how to take a bus! — I remember how stressed I was over this activity most Vancouverites take for granted.)

Things I Love Thursday

You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.
— Joseph Campbell

One of my very best friends sent me an email with this in the subject title last week and I’ve been reflecting on it since then. These last few months have found me more frustrated than usual. Instead of berating myself for the gap between what I wanted to accomplish by now and the stark reality, I’ve spent this past week thinking about what I have in my real, unimagined, living life. It’s not going the way I planned, but it’s the one I’ve got — and there are so many little things to love and give thanks for:

♥ The most beautiful wedding ceremony I attended this past weekend. There was so much love and happiness, just remembering it gives me more joy than I can express.

♥ Buffets. It’s been a while since I’ve gone to a full-scale buffet complete with appetizers, main courses and the most splendid spread of desserts I’ve yet seen. Mm, chocolate mousse and tarts…

♥ Basking in sunshine. I’ve been spending as much time as possible out-of-doors while the sun is here and the skies are clear. How I wish we had had more of this earlier!

Oliver Jeffers’s guide on how to draw penguins.

♥ Meeting up with friends I haven’t been able to see in a few months, however briefly.

♥ Packages in the mail! Surprises are the best, but long-awaited books in my letterbox are almost as good.

♥ My favourite English in-love love song is definitely Ronan Keating’s cover of ‘When You Say Nothing At All’.

♥ I really like this picture (though I’ve no clue where it’s from) for perhaps obvious reasons:

objects in mirror are closer than they appear: hope