05. PARACHUTES

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A string of short videos I’ve taken during my stay thus far.

Being in Japan for around a month now, I’m beginning to find my way! While the roads here may be narrow and curvy, I’m building a sense of belonging and each day feels more natural and more comfortable. Like the many stray cats that sneak around the streets of Japan, I’m starting to call these neighbourhoods “my neighbourhoods.” They’re my streets. Back off unless you’re a part of my gang—which reminds me, when I was walking by a river with some friends, they joked about how many bodies the Yakuza have probably dumped into it. To be honest, I’m not sure if they were punchlines or more… statistical facts.

Waterlogged bodies aside, I had Sophia University’s orientation. While most of the day consisted of speeches from certain department heads and advisors, it was the first I saw the other international students. It felt odd. To be called an “international student” was almost alarming, if not unnatural. For the longest time, I had the privilege of being a native to my own campuses, my own schools, but this time I was the outsider knocking on the gates. At the same time, being called an “international student” was enthralling. Finally, I had the privilege of experiencing an exchange student’s university life. It’s a little nerve-wracking, a little scary sure, but the goosebumps that pepper my skin remind me that I’m diving in headfirst with no parachute. I’m ready to experience a year at Sophia to the fullest and as cliched as that may be, there really is no other way to express that seemingly hedonistic desire.

The tour that followed our orientation introduced us to our supporter students: students from Sophia who have volunteered to help us throughout the course of the year. From there, we also became more friendly with the students assigned to our groups. It was the first stage in building relationships on campus. Since everyone came abroad, everyone had that particular common thread strung between each other so it was easier to make friends, to ask questions and to realize that I’m not alone in my experiences here. Two days later, we had a welcome party that featured more speeches and orientations. However this time they had food. Tenouttaten, five stars, best picture, game of the year, nobel prizes—all of them. It is amazing how much a social event can improve when there are trays of freshly-sliced sushi, succulent fruits and jam-packed dumplings greeting you by the door. Afterwards, we had another gathering at an Izakaya (Japanese drinking establishment) of sorts, headed by the students who ran the clubs responsible for cultural exchanges between students.

My university life is juuust around the corner and having already made so many connections, I’m ready to jump in. This time with a parachute.

04. HELLO ICHIKAWA

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The humble beginnings of my apartment.

Dedicating this post to Jerry because he kicked my butt into writing this belated post.

To be honest, I’ve been busy!

Moving to another city and relying on yourself  (and thinning wallet) to survive and create a normal living situation is more difficult than you think. Especially if you’re trying to get over a bout of homesickness—which I did! And settling into my apartment really did the trick. It was my own space: a place I could call home.

By building a home away from home I was able to overcome homesickness; I didn’t just construct a house over it like a haunted mansion above an old Native American burial ground. I excavated it, demolished it, kicked it away and I did it by following three tips.

1. DO NOT SKYPE YOUR FAMILY EVERY DAY.
Do it once a week if you want to keep a consistent personal contact. Distance yourself. Mute their voices. Forget their faces… Well, maybe not to that degree, but by slowly separating yourself from them, you’ll do yourself a big favor. You’re on exchange after all! You’re here to challenge yourself, to learn how to live independently and to explore your own limits. Make it an experience filled with stumbling and learning.

2. SET UP A ROUTINE
Get into a rhythm of doing things. Create a routine even if it’s filled with mundane tasks such as washing the dishes or folding laundry. Those chores will seem like nothing if you accompany yourself with music. Lately, I’ve been listening to the Guardians of the Galaxy soundtrack, the company of Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell helping the time just fly by. A routine allows you to settle in easier because it creates a sense of familiarity to your every day life. Having and feeling stability in your life is something you will appreciate two-fold when you’re finding your way in a foreign country.

3. STAY COMFORTABLE
Don’t be afraid to say no to things you don’t want to do. Sure, you should test your limits like I’ve said before. Sure, you should face fears and make adventurous forays. But, if there are anxieties or fears that you have, make sure you work to resolve them. Those worries don’t exclude financial scares, as well. Make sure you feel comfortable in every way possible. Not only does this combat homesickness by keeping your wits about you, it also lays a foundation for you to enjoy yourself. If you’re occupied with troubled thoughts, then how can you really embrace your experience experience?

That’s how I overcame homesickness. Hopefully, you will be able too as well if you go abroad!
I’m going to sign off now and eat. At 4:37AM.
Please don’t judge me.