Monthly Archives: October 2016

Stressed out? One step at a time…

This week, I want to remind students of the big and small steps they can take towards reducing stress and improving wellness in their life.  Here is a video that briefly outlines some of the practical and fundamental skills you might want to try! You may be someone who’s already using some of the skills included in this video – if so, feel free to comment below to let us know how it’s working for you and/or let us know if you’ve discovered any new skills you want to share with your peers!

I hope this helps you or points you in a promising direction.

The struggle of mental health on TEDTalks

October through November are typically months of the school year where most (if not all) students are preparing for midterms and trying to meet multiple assignment deadlines.  It’s a high stress fast paced extremely busy time of year on campus; reduced (or irregular) sleep, unhealthy meals (and/or skipping food altogether), and limited time to connect with friends and loved ones all become too common.  Depression, anxiety, and various struggles with mental health is an especially relevant topic during this time.

So, during your next study break, lean into the conversations regarding mental health on TEDTalks to gain eye-opening and powerful insight into these issues.

(And keep in mind, taking breaks during study sessions is a healthy habit! It can improve productivity and boost sense of mental wellness– just make sure breaks are brief and planned strategically!)

On Healthy Living: A Student’s Perspective

When Roger, the director of Health and Wellness, asked me to write a post for their blog, I enthusiastically said yes.  Seven years ago, if I had the knowledge I have now, I would have been much more successful during my time at university.  Not many of my friends and family are aware of the extent of my struggles during my university years; I was so often anxious and down.  I hope sharing my story with you will help you recognize the importance of exercise and nutritious eating as a part of your self-care routine.

It was September of 2009 when I stepped off the plane into British Columbia, ready to take on the next challenge: university.  I remember walking down the hallway of Nicola Residence Building, running into my roommate, who is now a lifelong friend, and introducing myself.  At this point I was approximately 185lbs, and excited for life after high school: partying, having fun, going to class and living off the meal plan!

Living in residence, I would walk down to a campus food service when hungry, buy breakfast, lunch and dinner.  Whenever someone else on my floor felt hungry, it seemed like normal practice for everyone to walk down together.  Too often, it turned out that I would have a second dinner, which was also often pizza from the late night menu at The Well.

Over the next three years, academic pressures increased and I got more involved on campus, which meant more meetings and constant deadlines. I began to find excuses not to exercise and, very soon after, exercise altogether became an afterthought.  When third year of university came around, I was 248lbs, my grades dropped, and I frequently visited the doctor and nurse on campus.

I continued through my third year without thinking twice about my decisions on a day to day basis. I regularly ate in the cafeteria, ordered takeout or delivery, and quickly scarfed down food while I was either studying or working.  One of my friends even took me aside to tell me sternly that they were concerned about my habits and health.  Yet, it was not until the end of my third year in the management program that I decided to make a drastic change.  To be honest, I didn’t think that I would make it far, but I thought: “let’s see where I get this time.”

I committed to an exercise regimen and started to adopt healthier eating habits; it was two of the most difficult things that I have done in my life! Yet, with hard work and dedication to these decisions, at the beginning of my fourth year , I noticed some of the unhealthy weight start to shed.  Now, two years later, I am back to a healthy weight for my body again.  While the numbers on the scale are markers I am proud of, what I am happiest about is the realization that I can be so much more productive and positive in my daily life when I eat nutritious foods and exercise regularly.

What I realized from this experience was that while parents, professors, and peers can tell me what they believe is good for me, I had to make the decision and commitment to prioritize my own health first; for me, this was through committing to eating a balanced diet while being active and exercising regularly.  Doing so allowed me to accomplish my other priorities as a student a lot easier, too.  My grades drastically improved, I woke up energized and ready to tackle the day, I showed up to class on time, and most importantly, I became a happy and positive individual.  So this is what I want to emphasize: make your health a priority, take care of yourself.

– Curtis Tse
UBC Okanagan Alumni 

The Ps are the Problem!

Imagine it’s the beginning of term and you’re attending your first class.  You arrive early and take a seat.  A few minutes later you see one of your friends walk in. You’re excited to see her and wave thinking she’ll come sit with you.  Instead she walks right by and takes a seat on the other side of the room.

How do you interpret this event?  Do you wonder if you’ve made her mad and start ruminating about what you might have done?  Do you assume that she hates you and doesn’t want to sit with you? Do you spend the rest of class wondering what you did wrong?  Many of us automatically assume the worst: “She hates me, I must have done something,” or “I’ve lost a friend, I’m flawed and no one will ever like me again.”

Interestingly, if the same situation happened to another person, they might explain it differently.  They might think, “Oh, she didn’t see me wave. I’ll go over and sit with her” or “I wonder what’s up. I’ll ask her after class,” or maybe even “Hmmm…I wonder she’s mad at me, I’ll check in with her later.”  This person would likely then focus on class with the intent to connect with their friend later.

It’s fascinating how a single event can produce such an array of responses.  Depending on your automatic response your mood follows suit.  If you tend to interpret events like the first person, you’ll likely be upset for the rest of the day and have trouble concentrating in class.  You might find it difficult to enjoy the rest of your day and begin to see everything else that happens that day through a negative lens.  Feeling upset may even effect your appetite, your sleep and your relationships with others.  When this happens, we start to isolate ourselves and may even start to show some signs of depression.

Martin Seligman, the guru of positive psychology, has completed numerous studies on what he calls a person’s “explanatory style”.

People with a more pessimistic explanatory style tend to think with the three P’s: Permanent, Pervasive and Personal.  In the example above we see the person perceive the situation as permanent (I’ve lost a friend), pervasive (no one will like me again) and personal (I’m flawed, I must have made her mad).  This pessimistic explanatory style causes us to see even the most benign event as negative.  A person with a more optimistic explanatory style would see the same situation as temporary (I’ll check in with her later), as just one part of their lives (I’ll focus on class now, and then see if she’s upset with me), and attribute the situation to a variety of situational factors (Oh, she didn’t’ see me wave! i.e. not totally personal).

Fortunately mastering an optimistic explanatory style just takes practice.  When you find yourself getting swept away by a slew of negative thoughts, check in on the 3 P’s.  Ask yourself, if I was feeling good today or at least a little more optimistic, how might I explain this event differently?