love life? what’s that?

Dear friends,

Lets be real and honest with each other. Dating is hard. Trying to meet someone isn’t an easy thing. You go to classes, there are some cuties, but unless your class only has 18 people (as some of mine are), it’s really hard to get to know someone! So, you get a job cuz you need the money. Hey, some of the people there are kinda cute, too! But then you think about the horrible break up you’re going to have: “… if I start dating you and it doesn’t work out… then what? Do I have to move, or leave? or will everyone hate me? or will everyone hate them?”

needless to say, it’s an awkward situation.

To alleviate the awkwardness, I have decided to do something even more awkward. I’m now online dating. Here’s why its awkward for me.

1. I’m not that great at praising myself, so to give you a list of things I’m good at or what I’ve done is a struggle for me.

2. I don’t take selfies. I have 2. They were from when I got a new pair of glasses, and then once I got a drastically new hair cut.

3. I make funny faces in photos constantly. I’m usually caught half-laughing or in a weird pose. Needless to say, can’t use many of those

4. I feel like I might be a bit particular in what I’m looking for, so trying to chat with someone online, to the point where you feel like you know them, is really not an easy thing. Therefore, I quickly (after about 4 or 5 messages) ask the person to grab a coffee. Some of them don’t wanna do that. So to that I rue, “why oh WHY did I spend so many hours trying to figure out how to say what I want in a witty manner, or a sensitive way, or to make sure there aren’t thousands of sexual innuendos or suggestive sayings in these heartfelt messages I’ve been sending them.”

5. I loathe games. I’m direct, I’m assertive, I know what I want and I go for it. Seems that’s not always appreciated, much like in real life haha.

 

So, after now going out on a date, and having a few more scheduled for this week, I have to say that even though I am feeling incredible awkward, everything is kinda working out. It’s not easy, trying to meet new people in a city where people come and go constantly. It’s also not easy to see someone that you think is the bomb-diggity and have them never respond to a message. On the flip side, it’s not very easy to just stop responding to messages. (ethical question: do I respond to the messages of the people that are messaging me to let them know that I am not interested, but thank you? Or do I just let them figure that out for themselves? moral dilemma)

All in all, it is fun to meet new people and try new and exciting things that other people are interested in for dates. Open mindedness is key.