I hope everyone’s move in went well and you’re all settling nicely :)
I remember when I moved in last year, I was both really excited and really nervous. And pretty lonely. But that kicked in more later. Everyone I met was really nice, but I was in a strange place without my parents for the first time. I remember the first week or so felt like some weird summer camp where the RA’s were like counsellors and everyone was pretending to be much more mature and much less scared than they actually were.
Of course, there were lots of people whose mentality was “Woohoo! No more parents! Finally!” And I commend those people. However, if you are not one of those people, you aren’t the only one. I promise. Everyone else is just pretending they’re not nervous too.
But you know something? You’re going to be okay. You’re going to be better than okay. If you get homesick, phone your mom. It always made me feel way better. And it’s going to get better as time passes – especially once classes start in 3 days, because you’ll be too busy to be lonely! I always get the loneliest when there’s nothing to do.
If you’re nervous about the work load, just think about this: you were good enough to get to UBC, you’re good enough to do well here. It’s true that on typically a student’s average will drop about 10% in university, but that happens to everyone, and with good time management you should be fine. Not to mention there are lots of resources to take advantage of when you need help.
And wanna know a secret? When my parents left this morning, I felt a bit nervous too. This will be my first year cooking for myself, and things are going to be pretty crazy at the beginning of September. But I survived last year – thrived, really – and this year is going to be even better. I can handle what’s coming my way. And so can you, even if maybe your brain isn’t quite convinced just yet.
2 Responses to Happy Move-In Day!
Thanks a lot for the great advice!
I just moved in today and I was very excited and nervous at the same time. It’s not like me at all to have to meet so many new people at once, so I’m utterly exhausted by the end of the day. I managed to spark a few conversation between some people (they’re really nice, really), but I haven’t managed to click with them at all. I still can’t understand how everyone can open up so suddenly and talk about anything for a very long time. Or maybe it’s just the really shy me.
I’m exactly the same way! I couldn’t click with anyone right away like everyone else seemed to be able to – hang in there though, you’ll find someone who gets you in time, even if it’s not right away :)